WHEN YOUR FRIENDS BETRAY YOU: DON'T CARRY THAT BURDEN ALONE (PSALM 55)
Updated: Nov 7, 2017
We have all experienced it. Someone who we love and would go above and beyond for does something that hurts us to the core or they say something that cuts right through our heart. In this Psalm, David is pouring out his heart to God. A close friend has hurt him and has become an enemy of his and David cries out to God for help carrying the burden of betrayal and deceit. David starts out by saying,
"Listen to my prayer, O God. Do not ignore my cry for help! Please listen and answer me for I am overwhelmed by my troubles."
This lets us know that this is something that David has been dealing with for quite some time and he can no longer handle this situation alone. He is stressed out and upset, his feelings are hurt and he is angry. David then goes on to say,
"It is not an enemy who taunts me-I could bear that. It is not my foes who so arrogantly insult me-I could have hidden from them. Instead, it is you-my equal, my companion and close friend. What good fellowship we once enjoyed as we walked together to the House of God."
So you see, this isn't just an acquaintance or any old regular hi and bye somebody, this is David's homey. This is his wingman, his ace. They fellowshipped and worshipped together in church. This person is David's brethren in Christ. So you can only imagine how betrayed he must be feeling.
We have all been there. Maybe it was a family member. Your mother or your father. Perhaps a sibling. Your best friend, a boyfriend, your spouse. Your child. Dealing with betrayal from someone who you love is always a hard thing to deal with. When things like that happen, it makes room for the spirits of depression, sadness, anger, rage, bitterness, retaliation and sometimes even suicide to set in.
When you have been hurt by someone you love, it is one of the worst feelings in the world. It can feel like death. Here, David has stood strong and decides not to take matters into his own hands and retaliate, but he gives this hurt over to God and he asks God to deal with them in his own way. David asks God to confuse his enemies and frustrate their plans. He asks God to let death stalk his enemies, for evil has made its home within them. These enemies of David have turned from God and made the choice to follow the evil one. David says this about his once good friend,
"As for my companion, he betrayed his friends; he broke his promises. His words are smooth as butter, but in his heart is war. His words are soothing as lotion, but underneath are daggers!"
In verse 55:16-19 and 22-23, David lets us know that he has chosen to call on the Lord and the Lord will rescue him. He will call on God in the morning, the afternoon and in the evening and he knows that God hears his voice every single time. He knows that God has his back so he is not afraid. I love this particular Psalm because in the beginning, David is scared and unsure. he even says that he is shaking and trembling in fear at one point. As the psalm goes on and David begins to call on the Lord, his tone changes from a defeated, person to a strong person who knows that he will have the victory over his enemies. God starts working in David right away. Fear is not of God. Fear is Satan's thing. As soon as David calls on the Lord, that fear begins to fade away and is nonexistent by the end of his prayer.
The end of this psalm is absolutely beautiful. In verse 55:22-23 David tells us to, "Give your burdens to the Lord, and he will take care of you. He will not permit the Godly to slip and fall. But you, O God, will send the wicked down to the pit of destruction. Murderers and liars will die young, but I am trusting You to save me."
When bad things happen and it feels like all hell is breaking loose and you don't know who you can trust and who you can't, just bring all of that to the Lord. When Satan left heaven, he did not have to take 1/3 of his angels with him. He could have left on his own, but he took those angels with him to hurt God. You have to remember that when you are living your life for God and you are happy in Christ, Satan hates that. He is not just going to let you be. He is going to attack you and he knows that the best way to hurt us and get our minds off of God is to have someone who we love hurt us.
That is why the bible says that we must love God above all else because if we don't, the devil can use any of those things or those people that we put above God to break us down, cause us to stumble and for some, cause us to turn our backs on God altogether. Trust in Him to save you and deliver you from your enemies.
God said, "Vengeance is His." So let the Lord handle it. Let Him take care of it. Always remember, can't nobody get somebody like God. God knows every aspect of a person's life whether they are living their life for him or not. He will get them, don't you worry. You may not be around to see it. God might not put it out there on Front Street so to speak, but they will get theirs. Do not worry yourself with your enemies and those who have hurt you or will hurt you in the future. What you do is, you forgive them as God has forgiven you, and you leave it with God as David did.
I hope that this word from the Lord inspires someone and I pray that you all have a blessed day! ~E