• Erica Hackett


Updated: Nov 7, 2017

I know that I have not written anything in what seems like a month of Sundays but I have been so...busy! I moved. The Lord blessed me and my daughter with an awesome place to live and a promotion and I have just been so busy and overwhelmed trying to get everything done. Oh, God is so good! Amen! Okay, so with that said, all I can say now is that this one is a hard one for many believers to accept. It was even hard for me to accept and understand at one point in time until the Lord opened my eyes and showed me why He wrote what He wrote in His word. 2 Corinthians 6:14 says, “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness?"

So, as a baby Christian, this particular scripture really had me confused and conflicted and took me on a doozy of sorts. Not because I thought that it was wrong or disagreed with it, but because I knew that I am in constant contact with unbelievers. It is something that is unavoidable. And since this is something that is unavoidable, eventually there would come a time when I would meet someone who was an unbeliever and maybe I would begin to like that person and have a growing interest for that person. But then what? Would it end in happily ever after or would that person and I end up clashing because of the presence of the Holy Spirit living within me, and the lack of the Holy Spirit’s presence within him. Well, what do you do when that happens? That is the question of the day.

Do you cut all ties with the individual because the Holy Spirit is not living on the inside of them? Do you pray for that person and ask God to change their heart and open their eyes so that they may began to seek Christ and become equally yoked with you? Or do you just attempt to build a future with that person even though the Holy Spirit is not living on the inside of them and hope for the best. Decisions, decisions. Man oh man! LOL! It is hard. I mean, although we are born again in Christ we are still humans who experience human emotions. There are some people who we know we aren't equally yoked with and we just have no interest in them and want nothing to do with them. But then what about that one, special someone. That one cute guy who has held the key to your heart for years upon years. The one who you would have done anything and everything for before you began to live for Christ. The one who you still would do anything and everything for? What about him? See, now this is where the self-conflict arises. This is where you will find yourself praying and thinking and praying and thinking all day and all night. Can’t eat, can’t sleep. Listening to love songs. Being in love. The only problem is, this was fine while you were out in the world. But now, you are in the world but not of the world and the world is beginning to take a piece of your heart. Harmless right? Love is amazing. Love is everything. God is love. How could anything be wrong with loving someone even though they are not living for the Lord?

I prayed and I asked God that very same question and this is what was revealed to me. Just because someone is not living for Christ, is does not make them a bad person. You can be friendly with them and talk to them, but if you want to make a life and a home and a family with that person, you need to be praying for that person to give their life to Christ. You should be praying for that man to become a man of God. Now, I know how much I love God. Oh, man oh man I love the Lord so much! Believe it or not, though, there are people who do not know God, let alone love Him. You can fall for a man who is into all of the things that you used to be into when you were living in both in the world and of the world and at first, it may be exciting and intriguing and you may begin to war back in forth in your mind over whether or not you should get into a relationship with that individual, but trust me, if you are warring back and forth in your mind you are really battling your flesh because if the Holy Spirit is living on the inside of you you already know that being with that person is not the right thing to do.

The Lord will let you know when you are making the wrong decision concerning getting into a relationship with someone. It will be on your mind 24/7. The devil is super busy honey! He dabbles in all areas, even matchmaking! LOL! He will throw you so far off course if you let him. He knows if you are lonely. He knows what kind of men you used to consort with and he will line them up for you on a silver platter because He wants you to go against God's word and please your flesh. If you are not careful, you will fall the enemy's trap, but if you are sure to put on the full armor of God and stand firm in God's word, you will be okay. There is no temptation that the enemy will set before you that God won't give you a way out of. I can testify to this!

What I will say is, let God lead you. Let the Holy Spirit lead you. It always comes back to that. I f you find yourself willing to compromise your beliefs and what you know is wrong in your spirit, then that situation and that person is not the one for you. No matter how small the compromise. Maybe you find yourself swearing occasionally when that person is around you and that is something that God has delivered you from. Maybe you find yourself being intimate with that person and feeling guilty about it afterwards. Anything that is from God will not make you feel uneasy or unsure. Anything given from God will not have you repenting after the moment has passed.

Wait on the Lord. Remember, God's time is not like our time and sometimes it will seem like you are waiting forever. But I can assure you that whatever God has in store for you is so much better than what the enemy can offer you. Also, the gifts that God gives last always and cannot be taken away from you. God knows all the desires of your heart and He hears your prayers, just make sure that you have your eyes, your ears and your heart open to receive His words when He answers.



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